The 3 rules for knowing thyself.
‘Knowing thyself’ is something that we all have to work on, and it should be something we are always mindful of, because we are (hopefully) always changing and evolving. There are three rules for knowing thyself:
RULE 1: The only person you can control is you.
This is a hard one to learn. It’s time to let go of the notion that you have any control over another person. You can’t make someone or a situation change. Change yourself or your reaction.
RULE 2: Accept others just as they are.
That’s another difficult one when you’re dating and in relationships and looking for relationships, because it’s hard to accept people for how they are. We want them to change. We want to mold them into the type of person we think they should be. We typically want them to think the same way we do. We want them to show us affection and love. We want them to make us feel like we want them to make us feel in the way we want them to make us feel it. From the very beginning, we have to accept another person for who they are and like and love THAT person, then, MAYBE, just MAYBE, you can negotiate and work through changes.
RULE 3: Accept yourself for who you are.
For the beginning part of everything, you need to accept yourself for who you are, the good and the bad and the ugly. We all have parts of us that are great. We need to accept those. That’s not always easy. We also need to accept the parts of us that are not so great, the parts of us where we know we have issues and hard times, things that we know about ourselves that we don’t handle as well. We need to accept the things that are really hard on us. We need to be honest with ourselves, and work to make changes if you feel you need to make them. But make changes for yourself, not another person or relationship.