We all know how difficult it can be to learn a new behavior. My way of helping individuals learn ways of working on themselves is to use adages. Throughout my practice I have used these sayings to help my clients deal with things immediately. They serve as prompts to actions for self checking. Many new adages are interconnected, but they are meant to be explored in any order, and revisited frequently.

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The New Adages

Start when things are small

  When dealing with issues in a relationship it is always easier to start when…

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DO NOT go to the B.A.R.

  B = BITTER A = ANGRY R = RESENTFUL! These are the most damaging…

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It’s easier to stay out than get out.

    “It’s easier to stay out then get out.” — Mark Twain This is one…

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That which is squelched is not dead.

THAT WHICH IS SQUELCHED IS NOT DEAD! When we don’t speak our truth and let…

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The only person you can control is you.

It’s time to let go of the notion that you have any control over another…

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Almost nothing is about you.

When someone is acting different around us, we often assume that we have done something…

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Life is a conversation

  I used to rely heavily on the words “communication” and “talk”. The first thing…

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Speak your truth.

The only obligation you have in any relationship is to let someone know how you…

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Let them know, and let it go.

Let them know and then let it go. This is one of my favorite topics!…

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The three f’s: firm, fair, and friendly.

This is a simple guide to communicating in an assertive manner. Many times we shut…

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If you don’t ask, you don’t get.

A lot of my clients feel defeated. Shut out of conversations, opportunities, choices, and experiences.…

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Change your thinking, change your life.

This has been the theme of my practice since the beginning and it is one…

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A change is as good as a rest.

This is one of my favorite adages, because nothing is more constant in life than…

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Whatever you put your attention on expands.

Whenever you experience something, interpersonally or otherwise, you can spin it any way you chose.…

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The best place to start is to start.

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” — Laozi There is…

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BYOB: Be in your own business.

Members of your family, friends or acquaintances personal issues (money, their relationships, their work issues,…

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Lose a different way.

Years ago I played league tennis and I lost every match. Not 6-0, 6-0, but…

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Stimulus 2, Response 10

Let’s say there was a scale from 1 to 10 with 1 being “no big…

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